Sunday, February 28, 2010

Mr PERFECT!!

I think a perfect person exists only in Mills and Boon or in Chopra films (and this implies to both men and women so I am not being partial). Anywas, after much thought :P here goes my list:

1. Honesty: It is most important for the survival of the relationship. If there is no mutual honesty and trust a relationship can never thrive for long.

2 Intellectual: I cant stand dimwits at all! He should be highly intellectual and be able to carry on the conversation smartly and intelligentaly on any topic.

3.Sense of Humour: I feel this is really important and after all laughter is the best medicine and this adds to the charm

4.Caring: He should be able to tolerate my mood swings (sometimes :P), shoule be able to sense things even when I cannot explain them. Shoule be understanding and give me my breathing space when I need it.

5. Responsible: Some one who I know would take care of things around, who is serious about his work but when at times I need him he should put his work at side and be there for me (basically someone who knows that work is definately important but family and offcourse I am more important :P)

6. Optimistic (to the core): I really get bogged down when things go wrong and become totally blue.He has to be an opposite atleast (and after all opposites attract)

7.Looks: SHoule be pleasant looking. I don't want a tom cruise other wise I will be bothered about all the women after him. But he should definately have loving eyes and a warm smile and yeah he should definately be:

8. Romantic: Should be able to express his love for me, remember all the date, make me feel special and love me just as much even when I have a running nose, bad cough and groggy eyes (Asking too much? Am I? But then I was writing about a "Perfect" person:P)

Lastly, he should be a self reliant and self made man (not the one's surviving on his dad's money). But he should be earning good enough so that the day I find my job sucking I can leave it and live the rest of my life off him. But then I don't even want a dumb fat money bag, he should have class to the boots!! And not to forget, should respect my mom dad and gel with my friends (and the most important: should be good in bed!! :P :P)

Hmmmm...that's about it.......Eh huh! Mr PERFECT...Lol!!

Separation is the end of an unfinished conversation/argument or problem.

Past few days I have come across a number of cases of lost love failed relationships, breakups, unrequitte love but no Happy Love!Agreed, when love goes sour, it sucks..big time! It feels like hell..and what the hell it is hell. But what I see around is not only sadness but a sense of anger and a much more blatant emption-defeated attitude towards life.. I feel lost love is more about letting go than venting frustrations and chanalizing anger. I am no guru at giving relationship advise but I can definately tell you one things..Its not the end of the world..Life moves on and so does time...Neither is going to stop for you. The choice for you is to either accept this movement or stagnate. By stagnating, you alinietae and thus you create your own misery and blame the one that has departed.No matter what, it is your life and you are responsible for your own happiess. The moment the happiness rests on someone else, you are bound to lose it.Be the safe guarder of your own well being and all this feeling of frustration, loss and defeat will vanish just like that.Like they say, its all in the mind, just like love!...Right? And then you cant hang on to things forever. No matter how hard you may try, favourite things cant be there for you forever.Either you outgrow them or it outgrows you.

When there is more pain in a relationship than pleasure then it should be ended before it destroys you. Some time you shouldn't delve into reasons for things going wrong or who is to blame etc.Sometimes you have to let go and let go of a lot of thins attached to the relationship- the warmth of their company, the shared anxieties and worries, the little sweet nothings-You must and you should!

Well Lettings go is not that easy but then sometimes holding on tightly or too long smothers the plan of our life or another. There is not point holding on to relationship which has lost its essence. We cant impose our desire on another soul because that soul may have its own path to tread. Let us appreciate and be thankful of the privilege of sharing life with someone. And if it should one day end by some stroke of fate, let us then have the wisdome to relase it to the universe and be grateful for the experience....!