If you peak in my head, these are just some things you will find scrambling across the brain of this eccentric twenty somebody at this point of time. Wonder if they make sense :)
Nobody said that moving on is easy.
The eternal optimist that I am, I believe that what happens, happens for the best.
Sometimes things don't happen the way you plan them and when you are caught unaware, your life turns upside down.
But there is order in chaos.
Moving on and running away are two different things. Sometimes we think that both are same. If you don't differentiate, you can't move on and get stuck in a time warp.
When you want to live your our safe world (the cocoon) and not venture out, something has to happen which will force you to come out. And turn everything upside down. Like a ship in stormy seas. And till the calm prevails, you will be fighting to get a semblance of life. Once you touch the shore and feel the ground beneath your feet, everything will be alright.
I am not an adventurer by choice but by fate, as they say.
I read somewhere that some people come into your life for a reason and when their job is done they go away.
The pain always fades and then comes a time you don’t feel it anymore...
Friday, January 9, 2009
Relationships: To live for or die for? Better yet, walk away....
I was talking to my roommate the other night and it is not unusual for us to have long pointless chats that last for hours…..The other day however we ended up having a deep conversation. Topic of discussion: Relationships. In today's time relationships are becoming more fragile. Why?
It left me thinking...N two reason crop up in my Mind:
1. We are more aware of what is right or wrong... If I am not compatible with someone, I'll not stay in such a relationship… I need to be mentally and intellectually challenged to be in a relationship…In olden times (i.e. the previous generation) people stuck around with one another, irrespective of the fact whether they were happy together or not.. 'Compromise' was the key word there… Divorce was taboo!! Making a decision about choosing your own life partner wasn't completely acceptable… Times started changing(urban India to be specific)…. We have a choice- we can walk out of a relationship and start over again. Though its difficult to pick up the pieces, still...
2. People don't wait around to see if things could work out (It doesn't mean being stuck in an abusive relationship or relation not based on equality)… Compromise is a bad word only if one of the partners is bending his/her back… To make any relation work, you need to accept the whole package... Everyone has his/her quirks and you need to live with them… Leaving the toothpaste cap open, wet towel on the bed may irritate you but they are not an earth shattering events… What matters is the integrity of the person, faithfulness, trust and ability to deal with situations and stick around in tough times… We live in a real world with real people.
Films, books and media in general, project an 'ideal happy relation'……Perfect parents, friends,kids, jobs, partners etc… Behind every successful relation, is a lot of hard work and some amount of compromise!!
Compromise only if you don't lose yourself in a relation…… 'Two become One' is a sweet notion but you can't be a shadow of the other… You need to be the mirror and retain your individuality!!! Wat say guys?
It left me thinking...N two reason crop up in my Mind:
1. We are more aware of what is right or wrong... If I am not compatible with someone, I'll not stay in such a relationship… I need to be mentally and intellectually challenged to be in a relationship…In olden times (i.e. the previous generation) people stuck around with one another, irrespective of the fact whether they were happy together or not.. 'Compromise' was the key word there… Divorce was taboo!! Making a decision about choosing your own life partner wasn't completely acceptable… Times started changing(urban India to be specific)…. We have a choice- we can walk out of a relationship and start over again. Though its difficult to pick up the pieces, still...
2. People don't wait around to see if things could work out (It doesn't mean being stuck in an abusive relationship or relation not based on equality)… Compromise is a bad word only if one of the partners is bending his/her back… To make any relation work, you need to accept the whole package... Everyone has his/her quirks and you need to live with them… Leaving the toothpaste cap open, wet towel on the bed may irritate you but they are not an earth shattering events… What matters is the integrity of the person, faithfulness, trust and ability to deal with situations and stick around in tough times… We live in a real world with real people.
Films, books and media in general, project an 'ideal happy relation'……Perfect parents, friends,kids, jobs, partners etc… Behind every successful relation, is a lot of hard work and some amount of compromise!!
Compromise only if you don't lose yourself in a relation…… 'Two become One' is a sweet notion but you can't be a shadow of the other… You need to be the mirror and retain your individuality!!! Wat say guys?
Letter to Self...
Dear Me:
I regret to say that I am totally fedup with you and your distractions. So I have decided to take matters in my own hands from today.
I have waited patiently for 23 years for you to grow up, and have some sense. But now I have realized that some people don't grow up and they don't listen to reason…..And you are a perfect example!! You are supposed to do something else (U kno what) and u are sitting here blogging. No, we are not going to have beer today.. and whatever happened to your resolution of not smoking for 3 months….U broke it, right!! Now we penalize you and extend it to another 3 months!! N BEWARE this time…
Whatever happened to your tennis lessons and the gym schedule, which you have been planning for past three months? Start reading avidly now and write sensible stuff henceforth….
The offer to visit the bar may look tempting, but we are not going there for another few days….Remember “alcohol is not coke”…. I am also surprised at your tremendous ability to forget things, which has cost us quite a lot now … All those emails and phone calls which are long overdue, we should be done with them by this week, right? For Gawd’s sake STOP bein LAZY!!
The list is very long and I don't want to go into lot of other details. I just wanted to let you know that you are not in charge from today.
yours ever,
Me
Thursday, January 8, 2009
New Year.........Resolutions!
New Year... Here are a few things I wish to change in my hectic lifestyle this year (And y I might actually follow it, coz its simple enuf to fit into my otherwise hectic lifestyle!!)
1. I will find healthy ways to soothe myself... Not to rely on drinking to take my mind of things- "wine is not coke".
2.Eat proper food at least once a day.
3.Have more patience! Yes, I am a bit compulsive. I think when God created the world, he purposely created me for one Psychiatric illness- compulsion and impulsion ;o)
4.Smile sincerely, laugh a lot and take time off occasionally.
5.Make a promise I know I can keep.
6.Read a lot...n write more (sensible stuff)
7.Give a sincere compliment.
8. Crib less, No more gossiping n..... basically Live n LET Live!!
9. Expect Less...n try and give more (widout expectations offcourse)!
10.Be connected on a regular basis with people back home no matter how occupied I am..
11 Tell my friends I really care for them (coz I do!!)
11. Believe in the power of magic....No not that witchy, narnia kinda magic, But I guess I shud appreciate the power of a good word, a kind touch or a smile.... I hav lost that somewhere along the way and that scares me but I know I can always regain it....I believe that when u say magic it is some form of a well wish for a person...Maybe I need to be wished better n wish better.... n this Year will be it!!!
12. Last but not the least, I need to believe in myself...I have lost touch with wanting to be with me...I have lost interest in what I want to do.... I have lost touch with me.....May be someday I will find my way back!!
I would try and keep upto my resolutions this time.....!! :) As they say, may all your troubles be as short lived as my New y resolutions ;o)
Happy New Year people!!!
1. I will find healthy ways to soothe myself... Not to rely on drinking to take my mind of things- "wine is not coke".
2.Eat proper food at least once a day.
3.Have more patience! Yes, I am a bit compulsive. I think when God created the world, he purposely created me for one Psychiatric illness- compulsion and impulsion ;o)
4.Smile sincerely, laugh a lot and take time off occasionally.
5.Make a promise I know I can keep.
6.Read a lot...n write more (sensible stuff)
7.Give a sincere compliment.
8. Crib less, No more gossiping n..... basically Live n LET Live!!
9. Expect Less...n try and give more (widout expectations offcourse)!
10.Be connected on a regular basis with people back home no matter how occupied I am..
11 Tell my friends I really care for them (coz I do!!)
11. Believe in the power of magic....No not that witchy, narnia kinda magic, But I guess I shud appreciate the power of a good word, a kind touch or a smile.... I hav lost that somewhere along the way and that scares me but I know I can always regain it....I believe that when u say magic it is some form of a well wish for a person...Maybe I need to be wished better n wish better.... n this Year will be it!!!
12. Last but not the least, I need to believe in myself...I have lost touch with wanting to be with me...I have lost interest in what I want to do.... I have lost touch with me.....May be someday I will find my way back!!
I would try and keep upto my resolutions this time.....!! :) As they say, may all your troubles be as short lived as my New y resolutions ;o)
Happy New Year people!!!
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