Relationships: To live for or die for? Better yet, walk away....

I was talking to my roommate the other night and it is not unusual for us to have long pointless chats that last for hours…..The other day however we ended up having a deep conversation. Topic of discussion: Relationships. In today's time relationships are becoming more fragile. Why?

It left me thinking...N two reason crop up in my Mind:

1. We are more aware of what is right or wrong... If I am not compatible with someone, I'll not stay in such a relationship… I need to be mentally and intellectually challenged to be in a relationship…In olden times (i.e. the previous generation) people stuck around with one another, irrespective of the fact whether they were happy together or not.. 'Compromise' was the key word there… Divorce was taboo!! Making a decision about choosing your own life partner wasn't completely acceptable… Times started changing(urban India to be specific)…. We have a choice- we can walk out of a relationship and start over again. Though its difficult to pick up the pieces, still...

2. People don't wait around to see if things could work out (It doesn't mean being stuck in an abusive relationship or relation not based on equality)… Compromise is a bad word only if one of the partners is bending his/her back… To make any relation work, you need to accept the whole package... Everyone has his/her quirks and you need to live with them… Leaving the toothpaste cap open, wet towel on the bed may irritate you but they are not an earth shattering events… What matters is the integrity of the person, faithfulness, trust and ability to deal with situations and stick around in tough times… We live in a real world with real people.

Films, books and media in general, project an 'ideal happy relation'……Perfect parents, friends,kids, jobs, partners etc… Behind every successful relation, is a lot of hard work and some amount of compromise!!

Compromise only if you don't lose yourself in a relation…… 'Two become One' is a sweet notion but you can't be a shadow of the other… You need to be the mirror and retain your individuality!!! Wat say guys?